The Courage to Be Disliked

Free Yourself from Others’ Opinions

Author

Erdem Selvi
January 26, 2025

Hello Friend,

Have you ever held back from doing something because you were afraid of what others might think? Maybe you didn’t pursue a passion, speak your mind, or make a big life change - just because you worried about being judged.

Here’s the truth: Caring too much about others’ opinions keeps you stuck.

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The Lesson: Not Everyone Has to Like You (and That’s Okay)

Many of us seek approval because we want to be liked, accepted, and validated. But living for approval is the fastest way to lose yourself. You end up making decisions based on what others expect instead of what truly makes you happy.

The reality? No matter what you do, someone will disagree with you. So why not live life on your own terms?

Why This Matters Today

Social media has made this harder than ever. We constantly compare ourselves, fear criticism, and hesitate to express our true selves. But real happiness comes when you stop seeking validation and start living authentically.

Practical Tip: How to Stop Seeking Approval

  1. Ask Yourself: "Whose Opinion Truly Matters?" – Most people’s judgments won’t affect your life in any meaningful way.

  2. Embrace the 5-Year Rule – Will this opinion matter in five years? If not, let it go.

  3. Reframe Rejection – If someone dislikes your choices, it often says more about them than about you.

  4. Take Small Risks – Speak your truth, even in small ways. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

A Quote to Inspire You

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." – Lao Tzu

Stay Connected

This week, challenge yourself to let go of the fear of judgment. Make one decision purely based on what you want, without worrying about approval. Then, share your experience with our community!

Take Action This Week

If you want to dive deeper into this life-changing mindset, check out “The Courage to Be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. This book, based on the philosophy of Alfred Adler, teaches how to free yourself from societal expectations and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.

👉 [Get your copy of The Courage to Be Disliked here!]

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The Uplift Weekly Team

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