The Gap and The Gain

How to Instantly Feel Happier and More Successful

Author

Erdem Selvi
March 23, 2025

Hello Friend,

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough?

You set a goal, reach it, and then…instead of celebrating, you just move to the next thing. It feels like happiness is always out of reach.

That’s because most of us are trapped in The Gap—constantly measuring our success against an ideal future that we never quite reach.

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The Lesson: Focus on The Gain, Not The Gap

In The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, they explain that the happiest, most successful people don’t measure progress by how far they still have to go. Instead, they look at how far they’ve come.

This simple mindset shift instantly boosts confidence, motivation, and happiness.

Why This Matters Today

Right now, with social media and constant comparison, people feel more frustrated and unfulfilled than ever.

  • You see someone richer, and your money feels small.

  • You see someone fitter, and your progress feels slow.

  • You see someone happier, and your life feels lacking.

But this is an illusion. The truth is, you’ve already come so far. The key is to stop measuring against the “perfect” future and start appreciating the wins you’ve already had.

Practical Tips: How to Stay in The Gain

  1. Measure Backward, Not Forward – Instead of thinking, “I still have so far to go,” think “Look how much progress I’ve made.”

  2. Keep a ‘Win Journal’ – Every day, write down 3 things you accomplished. Big or small, they count.

  3. Stop Comparing – Your journey is unique. The only person you should compare yourself to is your past self.

  4. Reframe Setbacks – Instead of seeing failures, recognize how much you’ve learned and grown.

  5. Celebrate Small Wins – Acknowledge your achievements instead of constantly moving the goalpost.

A Quote to Inspire You

"The secret to happiness isn’t achieving more—it’s appreciating how far you’ve already come." – The Gap and The Gain

Stay Connected

This week, reflect on your progress. Take a moment to see just how much you’ve grown, learned, and improved.

Take Action This Week

If you want to train your brain to be happier, stop feeling like you’re never “there,” and actually enjoy success, this book will change your life.

Thank you for being part of Uplift Weekly. You are further along than you think—appreciate the journey.

Warm regards,
The Uplift Weekly Team

P.S.: Success isn’t about reaching the ideal—it’s about recognizing how far you’ve already come.

Dan Sullivan

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